It seems to me that I can now expect the length of my friendships to last 2 months to 2 years... With that being said I miss most of my friends back home and I'm going to miss the two really good friends I've made down here... I hope that the connections remain, although since moving it seems that most will fade...
As I have adjusted to life as a stay at home fiance fairly well and managed to develop a Friday night social life for the better part of a couple months... Unfortunately, Nicole has to move on to bigger and better parts of her career and the same goes for Michelle in a couple of weeks... Therefore Friday night dinners and the every now and again Saturday manicure will be put on hold till I find my new group of NORMAL (I emphasize normal because of the lack of normal individuals within this embassy)friends to do dinners and such with... But then again that is this life and something I knew getting into this adventure...
I guess what I didn't fully prepare for was the lack of communication from friends from back "home"... Home is now in quotes because THIS is my new home... I feel like there was a great enthusiasm towards being friends with me because I was leaving but now that I've been gone, it seems I'm all but a distant memory to most... Maybe it's because I have too many posts from Cityville on my Facebook and I've been blocked by people? or is it that sorta you don't see it so you forget about it kinda thing?
I also have a tendency to go along with the belief that my generation is too reliant on TEXTING... Back in WA I was always only a text away and even I have to admit I would rather send a text than pick up the phone and hit the call button... Given that texting is not an option to get a hold of me, I had sent out a FB message to the friends I felt I would keep in contact with the most... I guess really only 2 of them actually picked up the phone and called and even then it seems it's been a couple months.... It's like the excitement of my move and the excitement of my engagement has faded into the background.... Maybe it's also my fault for thinking they should be the ones to pick up and call when I also have not picked up to call them... In my head I know these people have jobs, where as I do not... So I guess I thought that since they are the busier ones that they would call when they have time, as where I do not want to bother them when they are busy...
Now life goes on and I understand that friendships will definitely come and go, but I just think I expected a little more out of those who said they would keep in touch and maybe I need to step up my game in the friendship department as well...
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Ive learned through many moves that if you pick up 2 or 3 friends that stick with you (sadly, even those youve known for years) through every place you go, then youve been successful. It does hurt when people fade away, but Ive also learned every time that they leave room for new ones in their place!